I got a call recently from a former employee. “I need to apologize to you,” he said. I hadn’t heard from this guy in more than five years. I had no idea why he would be calling me, let alone to apologize. He went on to say, “I hated you.”

Turns out, he resented me greatly calling him out when he was late, sending back his work frequently for improvement and even pushing him in his personal life. He went on to explain, “You were holding me to a standard I didn’t want and I hated you for it. But now, I finally get it.”

See, it wasn’t until he got fired from his last job that he truly began to understand what I was trying to do for him. He quit working for me, got another job and quit that one after only a year. Got another job, quit. Got another, quit. Finally, he just got fired.

“It took getting fired for me to realize you had been trying to do me a favor. You were the only one who saw I could be better than I was and tried to help me. At the time I resented it, but now I am very grateful. Thank you.”

Isn’t it unfortunate how many times we must fall before we can begin to understand why? Why must we go down the road ourselves before we learn?

You can tell your child to not touch the hot burner… but reality is, the only way they are going to learn is to touch it and burn their hand!

This is true all the way through life. No matter what examples or warnings people are given, most people don’t learn the lesson until they are knocked flat on their back by it.

* A woman gets diagnosed with bronchial cancer before she stop smoking
* A man has a heart attack before he stops eating donuts for breakfast every day
* A woman goes bankrupt and moves back in with mom and dad before cutting up her credit cards
* A man gets a divorce before he realizes he’s been an inconsiderate jerk for the past decade

Sometimes the smack of hitting bottom is what it takes to actually ‘get’ life’s lessons. I don’t think this is the smartest approach to life, but sometimes people are supposed to fall—it’s the only way they will learn.

Imagine this… what if you could get an entire lifetime of wisdom, absolutely everything you needed to know to live a glamorous, wealthy, happy, healthy and joyful life from someone who proved every theory and lived to more than a hundred years old. What if they wrote every piece of wisdom necessary to live to that same level of success? Would you want to get a hold of that document? Would it change your life?

Probably not.

Wanna know why? Because, like most all wisdom which is almost insipidly simple and embarrassingly obvious, you won’t actually know the poignancy of each statement until you have actually experienced the pain or joy associated with the printed words. In other words, in order for the wisdom to have meaning for you, you have to have lived the words, not just read them.

Hence, sometimes we are just supposed to fall in order to acquire the value of the wisdom earned.
Centenarian Advice—Wisdom from 100 Years of Life

This past weekend I spent time with a friend in Newport Beach, Calif., whose grandfather was the centenarian I mentioned above. His granddad lived to be 102 years old. He was a very wealthy and respected man whose life exemplifies all the qualities above. He was everything most everyone would aspire to be.

When this man was born, life expectancy was 47 years, the American flag had only 45 stars, only 14 percent of homes in the United States had a bathtub, 8 percent had a phone, the average wage was 22 cents an hour and sugar cost 14 cents a pound. He experienced and lived through WWI, WWII, Korea, Vietnam, the Great Depression, the Industrial Revolution, the first man on the moon, the Berlin Wall going up and coming down, several stock market crashes, the technology boom, etc.

He did write down the wisdom he acquired and proved during his more than 100-year life. He son put them into a document called 100 Years of Wisdom. The document is only three and a half pages, but contains some of the most profound wisdom you will ever read—if you have the life experience and perspective to appreciate them. Just one of these lessons could radically alter the course of your life. This document has only been shared amongst their family, but he has given me the honor of sharing it with all of you.

I was just thinking about all this make money things then this thought just occured to me , that if jesus just concentrated on making money , he would have been a multi -multi -multi trillionaire by selling just fish.
look at the amount of fish he caught in just one single stroke…

–and for taxes he just needed to send one of his employees to go fish , and the first fish will have a gold coin in its mouth?

I wonder how rich he was .

And the man who betrayed him just did it for 30 pieces of silver.
That was like if Jesus could make an employee go fishing and just bring in 1 fish per day [the first fish that he hooked] he would have earned 1 gold coin per /day..ie. 30 gold coins per month. you can do the math.. for how much he was betrayed…[]

The importance of giving back to the world/universe from where we make millions. .This is quite an eye opener.

oh . i forgot about the wine. i like wine . i prefer red because it has resveritol in it and it could be the next anti-aging stuff.
I was wondering about the wine which jesus converted from water that marriage feast at cana. Was it red – or white?
My gut feeling says it was white.. Because the master of cermonies could not distinguish he said –the best has been kept for the last more on this later…

The point that im driving here is . There was another business opportunity for jesus.. Make wine out of all the wells and bottle them and sell them to the romans at high prices because there was no question about the quality , its could have passed all quality tests..

Umm,,,, let me see. could it not have been that the employee of jesus who was sent to fish would have been told to bring in a total of three fish..why three??
the first one -would hav ehad the gold coin for taxes
the rest two would have gone for his restuarant biz. You know how he fed the 4 thousand with 2 fishes and some loaves of bread. ?

We earn/make all the money because we find it thrilling/exciting its the talent that we were all given [ remember the rich man who goes abroad giving each 3 of his servants 5000 pieces of silver?]
The only thing is that some of us really want it some of us dont. For those of us who want it we get it eventually. But when we do get it , just remebering one thing would not hurt us or the wealth we can make out the store house of universe , its already there we rent it for our lifetimes.. its just like breath ,, we rent the space ,, the air. We never own the breath ..Same with wealth , no one owns it. We rent it for a while and then were gone. ..here comes the importance of giving back to the univerrse from which i rent a small portion of its enormous wealth..mi gosh were so possesive….?!!!!!

Give …..an it shall be given unto u//

I saw a horrific scene recently. A passenger car smashed itself half way into the back of a school bus. Thankfully, there were no children on board, but the driver of the car was severely injured. When the driver was interviewed, she was asked what happened and she replied, “I was looking in the rearview mirror.” Doh! I also see people doing this on the road of their life… At a dinner party last week, a woman was telling stories of how her former husband had treated her, details about things he said, did or never did. Eventually I asked, “How long have you been divorced?” She replied, “Thirty-six years.” Before this series of tragic stories (she thought to be amusing) she was complaining about not finding ‘Mr. Right’ and being single for 36 years. Doh! At the same dinner party, another guy told blow-by-blow stories about his high school football glory days and how popular and cool he was ‘back in the day.’ Yet, just earlier that evening he explained he was going to splurge in spite of his doctor’s urgent orders concerning his Type 2 Diabetes (from obesity). He once again was turned down for a job and he hasn’t made a child support payment in six months. (His former wife was the high school head cheerleader). Doh! Look, there is nothing more damaging to your future potential than spending your present dwelling on the past. Whatever has happened is over. Glory or defeat, once the clock struck midnight, the day was done. You are reborn each morning, and who you are each day is defined by what you do that day and that day only. You are not your past. You are only your present and your present actions will determine your future. Now, let the past instruct you so you can be wiser marching forward, but don’t let it continue to suck you backwards. Jim Rohn teaches to have your past be “a school master, not a club.” Let it instruct you, not continue to beat you down. Look back for lessons, not excuses. Oh, and by the way, that degree you have hanging on your wall was deemed irrelevant within 18 months after graduation. What you have learned lately is what’s important. The dusty trophy on your shelf won’t pay your mortgage, time to get into today’s playing field of life and play with intensity. There is a great line I heard that says, “You can never obtain success, you can only rent it and the rent is due every day.” It’s great to achieve, celebrate your victories and be proud of your accomplishments, just keep your eyes on the road ahead and not fixated on your review mirror or you too, might find your life accidentally smashed into an object you didn’t see just in front of you. How do you keep from constantly looking in your rearview mirror of life?

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